Every time I attend a wedding and speak to the mother, she always tells me how she’s been praying for this day, and for her daughter’s husband, ever since her daughter was born. I think it’s amazing that a mother would commit to praying for their daughter’s husband for that many years and before I was a mom I always wanted to do the same thing.
But when I had my daughter something changed. Having a daughter suddenly made me think about all the years I spent being insecure, not knowing who I was in the Lord, and looking for my identity in all the wrong places.
From very early on in my daughter’s life I was convicted to pray a different prayer, a prayer not for my daughter’s future husband, but a prayer that more than anything in the world, she would know her identity in the Lord.
My prayer for my daughter has always been that more than anything she would know who she is in the Lord, she would know who He has called her to be and that she would hear the voice of the Holy Spirit. It might seem like a simple prayer but I believe this is one of the most powerful prayers we can pray over our children.
“…that she would know who she is in the Lord…”
If my daughter grows up to know who she is in the Lord, instead of finding her identity in who the world says she is, then she will be a powerful force to be reckoned with. I can’t even image how different my life would have been if my parents had prayed this over me, and I’d known my identity from the time I was young. What I do know, is that it would have saved me a lot of heartache and years of being insecure, and if I can save my daughter from that heartache because she’s confident in her identity in the Lord, then I will be over the moon with joy in watching her.
“…that she would know who God has called her to be…”
How many of us spend years of our lives wondering what our calling is? I know I did! I feel like that’s one of the biggest questions asked in the church, “what is my calling, what is my purpose here on earth?” Imagine if you had always known your calling because it had been prayed over you and God had revealed it to you when you were little. If I had known my calling years ago, it would have saved me from wasting a lot of time trying to figure it out. Think about how powerful our children could be if they knew their identity and their calling from the time they were young.
One of Malea’s callings is to show God’s love to people and from the time she started school she has always done that well. She is someone who will pick a flower and give it to a stranger, go out of her way to compliment someone’s outfit, all because God has shown her from the time she was little, that that’s one of the ways He wants to use her to bless His people.
“…that she would know the voice of the Holy Spirit…”
Of all the things I pray for my daughter, I believe this is one of the most powerful. To know the voice of the Holy Spirit means that she will hear truth and be able to discern the lies of the enemy. It means in time of temptation that she will hear God’s voice and walk away. It’s one of the most powerful tools we can give our children. To know the voice of the Holy Spirit means to know God, hear Him in a moment and be able to converse with Him intimately.
For most of my life I have heard the voice of the Holy Spirit but it wasn’t until about 14 years ago that I figured out what it was, because I was never taught. What a privilege I have to teach my daughter starting now, what the voice of the Holy Spirit sounds like and that He is there to give us wisdom when we need it, give us discernment when we ask for it or to encourage us when we are feeling sad. The Holy Spirit is with us to guide us and be our direct line to the Lord, and that is definitely something I want my daughter to be aware of.
So back to what I mentioned at the beginning of my post, about praying for my daughter’s husband; I have never felt convicted to pray for her husband (maybe someday I will) because I know if I faithfully pray for her to know who she is in the Lord, what her calling is and that she would clearly hear the voice of the Holy Spirit, all those other details – like where she goes to college, who she dates, who she marries, etc. will all fall into place. I don’t worry about my daughter’s future because from the time she was born I have prayed identity in the Lord over her, so I know she will grow up to be powerful, confident and make wise choices being guided by the Lord.